Personal EED Glossary¶
- emergent¶
what does it want to become?
- essence¶
level of all-potential, nothing expressed yet - but containing all-potential; self-generating, unconditional, not depending on anything outside of yourself, therefore not focused on action where there is no ego
- relationship dynamics¶
facilitating a relationship between a person and another person or situation to its purest expression; this is done by observing, catching, and re-using those moments (golden keys) where it naturally drops from game into dream state, to repeat and sustain the drop longer.
- essence¶
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- state of essence¶
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- essential quality¶
self-generating, self-perpetuating, unconditional, going beyond identity; if we have them and take action from that place, it’s more sustainable and the client has less chance to deflate when meeting obstacles and challenges;
- essential self¶
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- sacred self¶
your self if you could take off all your masks, makes me realise what is permanent in me, what can always be expressed; always intangible to others
- sacred space¶
immediate space around your sacred self, nobody else except you chooses who has access to it
- resilient self¶
level of expression, not trying to express all-potential but something that is reinforcing essence; while being at essence, focused on action
- pathetic self¶
level of expression trying to become level of all-potential (which can’t work because only level of potential can become level of expression)
it’s reminded that it’s empty and it runs away / does not want to connect to from emptiness
because it feels empty, its ego feels like it cannot exist
to resist emptiness, it swings on the polarity and plays games (of validation and control), rushes into action, depends on a condition; is ego-driven, not connected to source, as depending on condition, therefore rushing into action to flee from feeling (it doesn’t want to connect to the underlying feeling of emptiness [which actually is all-potential]); it doesn’t want to connect to the feeling because its ego fears to die; potential to become resilient self; tries to imitate essence, to become everything
why doesn’t the ego realise that it is all-potential? because it needs to express, it’s action and expression oriented.
- crack¶
- drop¶
connecting with our own source, anything can become true and we can be okay with that; then we can start create some thriving from whatever truth we want to create
- embody¶
we are integrating it into ourselves into our fullest expression of what the spark contains
- story¶
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- game¶
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- dream¶
what’s the dream of the relationship? not to be confused with dream state
- source¶
- source being¶
- state of source¶
- emptiness¶
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- validation game¶
- validation¶
ego trying to survive by proving that it exists: “do I exist? do I exist?”
“do you see me? do you like me? do you love me?”
- control¶
- control game¶
ego trying to survive that it keeps existing
“I need to feel secure. I need to gain power, so I can still get my validation”
therefore I have to control people, my environment
- golden key¶
doorway to drop into dream state, trigger without being at essence would lead into game
- dream state¶
more fluid reality tbd in pyramid
- death’s door¶
only one option; ego fears to die
- essence-to-essence¶
both let go of their prize, what must change
- discernment¶
I have experienced it, I have an idea of what it is, of its value and I still say no; making a decision through experience not through prejudice; informed decision;
- judgement¶
I claim to know what it is without actually being in relationship to it, without actually experiencing it
- shield¶
- mask¶
will deceive; way of interacting
- weapons¶
four horsemen of Gotman plus mask plus shield will attack, defend
- awareness¶
neck up; thinking in concepts in awareness and inspirations and intuitions
- experience¶
neck down; feelings, sensations, energies, physicalities
- congruency¶
matching physicality with emotions and thoughts; when they are aligned up, we can access essence tapping into source; otherwise we are trapped into ego persona, pathetic self
- coherence¶
not to be confused with congruency; aligning body centres together
- fascination¶
a way to focus going beyond curiosity (why?) leading to acceptance (8 stages of relationship)
- enjoyment¶
a way to conect (to what?) leading to where I am directing my focus towards
- woke¶
unwillingness to outgrow one’s own fragilities; therefore demanding from others to adapt completely to their fragilities, if you don’t, you will be shamed, guilted, punished; focused on becoming hero, important, special, elite for wearing the fragilities (flattering themselves), if you don’t you are accused of being full of hatred https://youtu.be/QZ1tAo7_wp8?feature=shared&t=5142
- endowment¶
- peeling process¶
you let the feeling go BUT from a state of really being connected with it…where you let it be there for a couple of moments…from a state of acceptance INSTEAD of letting it go to get rid of it!
- reaction 1¶
- ouch¶
internal response
leading to essence, taking them away from ego / identity towards deeper vulnerable truth
in order to get there they need to feel resilient
- reaction 2¶
- ouch¶
leading to the game they are playing (polarity they are in) - attack, attack, defence, mask, shield - it is actually important to aggravate attack and defence so that you can understand what they are actually defending
they may not even be aware of the first impulse, it’s so unconscious - so you wanna aggravate sometimes the mask and shield in order to make your way in that first impulse
- expressed action¶
- pinch¶
- pinch back¶
action that follows reaction 1 or reaction 2, leading to game in case of preceding reaction 1 and dream state in case of preceding reaction 2
- pinch and ouch¶
ouch is reaction 1 and reaction 2, then they are going to pinch back, that is expressed action
- focusing loop¶
what is it? what is it for?
- embodiment loop¶
spark connect you let it voice itself, not speaking for it
- transmutation¶
prefer transmutation over transformation